Let's see, I left off in the late 80s, as I was discovering women's music and coming out as a lesbian. (Ok, it's easy for bis to get confused since everybody expects us to be one thing or the other.)
So I began listening to Holly Near, Alyx Dobkin, Ferron, June Millington, Indigo Girls, Melissa Etheridge (we just knew she was one of us) and other classic lesbians or lesbian friendly artists. I can't remember the name now but I even found a lesbian rap artist with some cool socially conscious material. I met some of these performers as they toured and I had my share of crushes. As 89/90 approached I was discovering Dianic Wicca and goddess music to add to my lesbian feminist tapes. I loved the intersection of religion and politics that feminist spirituality represented. I could have my Goddess and protest too. I began listening to Lisa Thiel and Libana, Gypsy, and other Goddess and spoken word material floating around the pagan community. I mixed in indigenous music and various other cultural tunes, anything that felt wild and witchy and set a good mood for rituals. In general I gravitated to women artists and women's energy. (Though I still had my bouts of listening to hard rocking men, I must admit. It was almost an illicit pleasure in the lesbian community, to listen to the boys...)
In 1991 my son's accident happened and I turned to music for the long drives and to help me sleep at night. Goddess music served the latter purpose, soothing me and reminding me that I was not alone. On the drives to the teaching hospital where my son was at I would listen to Seal...
QUOTE
But we're never gonna survive, unless...
We get a little crazy
No we're never gonna survive, unless...
We are a little...
Cray...cray...cray......Crazy
or Toni Childs' House of Hope:
QUOTE
children laugh
children cry
they're the future of our time
will they hold us to blame
for all the things we've turned away
I don't like what I see now
I don't like where we're going
I don't like it, no
you and I, we're getting older now
you and I, who will show them
if we don't show them how
I want to know is it true
is there a house of hope for me and you
I want to know is it true
is there a house of hope for me and you
In general any music that allowed me to get my feelings of worry, doubt, and despair out and express some hope of my son's survival was what I chose to listen to at that moment. I also bought The Lord of the Rings on tape so we could play it for my son while he was in a coma. I was imagining that he would be so bored laying there if he was ever conscious of sound in the room, and wanted to give him something I knew he loved to keep him entertained. When he came out of the coma he took great pleasure in this.
I also loved this (same Seal album as Crazy)
QUOTE
Jade,
A shade of pain and then we die.
Jade,
A shade of pain and then we die.
Jade,
A shade of pain and then we die.
But it's just the way...
Maybe that's the way you live you life but I know...
...you live... your... life...
Life... You see it don't always live that way
At some point I was introduced to Ani Difranco and I was fortunate to see her when the venues were still small, up in the front row. It was at that point that she released Puddle Dive.
Blood in the Boardroom remains my favorite Ani song to this day, with some fierce competition.
During my son's teenage years he introduced me to Tool, Nine Inch Nails, Nirvana, Beck, Alice In Chains, Primus, and so many other progressive or alternative or metal bands. I in turn induced him to listen to Koko Taylor, Enya, Ani, Clannad, Dead Can Dance, Sarah MacLachlan, and anything else I thought might broaden his horizons. We really connected over music and spent a lot of time listening together. We went to see Pink Floyd (oh my god, have I even mentioned them yet?) when they toured in...93 or so. I love Tool for its sublime combination of hard rocking tunes with melodious vocals and often transcendental lyrics. Dave and I saw Tool the weekend before my heart disease diagnosis. I felt good that I at least got to experience that as I went into surgery. Actually we had tickets to see Billy Idol on the very day of my heart surgery. I made Dave go as that evening I was mostly sleeping anyway.
I listened to Tool a lot during my recovery. Much of Lateralus resonated for me.
Lately I am loading itunes and my ipod with a lot of different stuff, from oldies that I had been looking for and found on Apple's music store to new stuff that I've discovered or recently bought. I'll browse through my list at work for some names. Alicia Keys, India Aire, Alana Davis, Staind, Metallica, Talking Heads, Peter Gabriel, Gwen Stefani, Hiroshima, Cold Blood (listened from the 70s on, saw them in concert locally), kirtans for my spirit mix, pagan tunes for same, comedian albums--Margaret Cho, George Carlin--Rob Zombie, 3 Doors Down, Enigma, Days of the New, Jerry Cantrell, Laura Love, Marvin Gaye, Patty LaBelle, Perfect Circle...the list goes on and on.