3 Boxes vs. Talasiga, split from BV Narayan Maharaja Archives Options

[Tapati]

.....
Why dont you ask talasiga to stop needling people on this board in general, including  Tapati.

Have you two been exchanging needle experiences behind my back?

I wish I had a moderator buddy.
Maybe I'll PM babulu.

I used to be very nice to him in other forums.
Use to come to his side a lot
(even if he didn't deserve it) ......

To answer your question: No. I have not been secretly conferring with or airing grievances with Jijaji, Three Boxes, or however one chooses to think of him. Whatever he's said has been a conclusion he reached independently of any input from me.

I will say that in general I feel more constrained about discussing any personal offense I take at any member's posts than most people here by virtue of needing to maintain a neutral stance as a moderator. So I would not have any such discussion with anyone but another moderator if I felt a need to "vent" my frustrations or wounded feelings.

[0talasiga0]

And I thought that if forum members clashed it was often due to the tyranny of the written word which denies us so much of what we need for real communication.  I believed that if they met, face to face, then a more complete understanding of the individuals and their relationship would round-out the picture and that peace would supplant animosity.

It looks like I am full of shit – again! 

No HomerJi you aren't full of shit.
You probably have not met as many
"enlightened" people face to face
as I have ........

[babu]

Have you two been exchanging needle experiences behind my back?

I wish I had a moderator buddy.
Maybe I'll PM babulu.

I used to be very nice to him in other forums.
Use to come to his side a lot
(even if he didn't deserve it) ......

the moderator, by virtue of true knowledge sees with equal vision, a dog and a dogeater... the one fault of us moderators

[0talasiga0]

the moderator, by virtue of true knowledge sees with equal vision, a dog and a dogeater...

What about dog food?

[babu]

the moderator, by virtue of true knowledge sees with equal vision, a dog and a dogeater...

What about dog food?

not all dog food is the same... my dog lets me know about that

[0talasiga0]

You certainly know how to treat dogs.
Having pets is therapeutic.
I was never allowed to keep a dog when I was a child.
I guess thats why I don't have good social skills.

[babu]

"the difference between a good dog and a bad dog are the owners"
ceaser, the dog whisperer

[babu]

"i rehabilitate dogs and i train people"
caeser, the dog whisperer

[0talasiga0]

.....
I aplogize to everyone here, the mods, members, guests and everyone who witnessed any unbecoming behaviour on my part yesterday.

And lastly to Talasiga, I apologize to you for any harshness on my part yesterday and for that gay comment I made out of anger to you in the past, please understand when I met you I honestly thought you were gay as did my girlfriend at the time and I guess that assumption made a mess.




Sincerely,

۞ ۞ ۞, jijaji, bangli, moksha, sahajiya joe whatever...

I don't know why you would think me gay but I am not offended by that.
I hope you didn't think my wife was a transvestite.

Actually some of the best friends I have had are gay/lesbian. So being a gay/lesbian or being perceived as such is not an insult.

Perhaps you read me as gay because I am a dainty fellow, with expressive lithe limbs, a gentle sallow complexion unmarred by age, cherry red lips and
what many of my friends describe as "bedroom eyes". Perhaps its my gushiness with new found friends. People like to describe me as feminine rather than effeminate. I like that. Its how I am. My balls aren't going to fall off because I don't present as a standard image of a macho male. Perhaps its because I pranced and danced up the hill while you, of lesser age, panted.

I forgive you for misperceiving me and I ask the forgiveness of the gay community if anything I have said suggests that being called gay is an insult of itself.

What offends me Jijaji is when you try to insult me by calling me a "little Indian fag" with the energy of hate behind those words. And it is offensive that you offered an apology saying you didn't mean that you thought I was gay when, in fact, you actually thought I was gay and that was the likely motivation of your choice of insult.

Jijaji, forgive me if you cannot see a humourous element in our interactions here.
It is funny my friend. I do like you. You too have bedroom eyes. You too are gentle beneath that anger, that vigilance that judges people by gender stereotypes. Let us play and tease each other Jijaji. Harmlessly. Let us dance. It will not emasculate you. Ancient Oriental saying, "He who dances like a woman, fights like a tiger".

Please stay, amigo. Let us be models of reconciliation, of openness. Not a dumbed up, repressed tolerance but interactive, bouncy, teasy and fun (within forum rules). A little lila.

I do believe you have more friends here than I do, JijaJi. Why desert them?

[0talasiga0]

the difference between a good and a bad dog owner
is the dog food ......

[0۞ ۞ ۞0]

What offends me Jijaji is when you try to insult me by calling me a "little Indian fag" with the energy of hate behind those words. And it is offensive that you offered an apology saying you didn't mean that you thought I was gay when, in fact, you actually thought I was gay and that was the likely motivation of your choice of insult.

Let it go man, I called you that over two years ago and you have carried that burden too long...

My reason for saying WE thought you were gay is because WE did, simple as that, not in an offensive way at all, it was kinda of matter of fact, Tapati is married and gay, thus you had the insult come from that perception, which was wrong and which I have apologized to you for left and right.

If you want to carry it around more go ahead...

I'm not..

[0۞ ۞ ۞0]

If I may:

Two Buddhist monks were walking through the woods: one a senior monk and the other a junior. The two monks approached a raging stream to find a young woman at the stream’s edge. The woman was clearly concerned about how to get to the other side. The junior monk walked across the stream without paying any attention to the stranded woman, but the senior monk recognized her distress. He picked her up and waded through the river, carrying her to the other side.

The monks parted ways with the woman and continued on their journey. It was clear, though, that the young monk was quite disturbed by the actions of his elder and eventually spoke up.

"You know we are not allowed to touch women. How could you carry her across the river like you did?"

The older monk reflected and then gently responded, "I left her back at the edge of the river. Why are you still carrying her?"

We are constantly carrying extra weight on our minds.

[0talasiga0]

Let it go man, I called you that over two years ago and you have carried that burden too long...

My reason for saying WE thought you were gay is because WE did, simple as that, not in an offensive way at all, it was kinda of matter of fact, Tapati is married and gay, thus you had the insult come from that perception, which was wrong and which I have apologized to you for left and right.

If you want to carry it around more go ahead...

I'm not..

What you don't seem to understand is that I am not at all carrying it about as a BURDEN. The fact that I can look back at it and make little humorous posts about it as a secret code joke with you should not be seen to mean that I harbour a grudge. It just means I am over it and I feel you might be over it enough to joke about it.

Just like a lot of people are over their ISKCON thingie but they still talk, discuss and joke about it.

Of course, if you still feel guilty about it, I won't joke with you about it.
But I would really advise moving on from guilt.

Please be a good lad and read the whole of my post above. I really like it and wrote it with an open heart.

[0۞ ۞ ۞0]

You have chosen to ignore talasiga.

I'm moving on thank you...

[0talasiga0]

You have chosen to ignore talasiga.
I'm moving on thank you...

I guess the prospect of an artistic, "feminine" male
who isn't gay was just too much for him.

[suryaz]

.....
I aplogize to everyone here, the mods, members, guests and everyone who witnessed any unbecoming behaviour on my part yesterday.

And lastly to Talasiga, I apologize to you for any harshness on my part yesterday and for that gay comment I made out of anger to you in the past, please understand when I met you I honestly thought you were gay as did my girlfriend at the time and I guess that assumption made a mess.




Sincerely,

۞ ۞ ۞, jijaji, bangli, moksha, sahajiya joe whatever...

I don't know why you would think me gay but I am not offended by that.
I hope you didn't think my wife was a transvestite.

Actually some of the best friends I have had are gay/lesbian. So being a gay/lesbian or being perceived as such is not an insult.

Perhaps you read me as gay because I am a dainty fellow, with expressive lithe limbs, a gentle sallow complexion unmarred by age, cherry red lips and
what many of my friends describe as "bedroom eyes". Perhaps its my gushiness with new found friends. People like to describe me as feminine rather than effeminate. I like that. Its how I am. My balls aren't going to fall off because I don't present as a standard image of a macho male. Perhaps its because I pranced and danced up the hill while you, of lesser age, panted.

I forgive you for misperceiving me and I ask the forgiveness of the gay community if anything I have said suggests that being called gay is an insult of itself.

What offends me Jijaji is when you try to insult me by calling me a "little Indian fag" with the energy of hate behind those words. And it is offensive that you offered an apology saying you didn't mean that you thought I was gay when, in fact, you actually thought I was gay and that was the likely motivation of your choice of insult.

Jijaji, forgive me if you cannot see a humourous element in our interactions here.
It is funny my friend. I do like you. You too have bedroom eyes. You too are gentle beneath that anger, that vigilance that judges people by gender stereotypes. Let us play and tease each other Jijaji. Harmlessly. Let us dance. It will not emasculate you. Ancient Oriental saying, "He who dances like a woman, fights like a tiger".

Please stay, amigo. Let us be models of reconciliation, of openness. Not a dumbed up, repressed tolerance but interactive, bouncy, teasy and fun (within forum rules). A little lila.

I do believe you have more friends here than I do, JijaJi. Why desert them?

Humm [chuckle]

Talasiga is not gay, but I guess .........

...its hard to be humble,
when you are perfect in every way..... [and the song continues]

Can’t wait to look in the mirror
As I get better looking each day

Some folks say I’m egotistic
Heck, I don’t even know what that means
I think its got something to do with
When I wear my skin-tight blue jeans

Humm[?]

[0۞ ۞ ۞0]

Hey suryaz how are you? Can't even say hello ?

No one ever said he was gay ....

We (you know who) might have thought that some years back meeting him, and frankly the flute repair man thought so too....

However, it's a good thing he's got back-up in OZ he can rely on in a time of need...

He needs to lay this to rest now, people will start to wonder why he's making such a fuss..

gee whiz...

[0talasiga0]

I am curious about the "girlfriend" you mention:-

........
We (you know who) might have thought that some years back meeting him, and frankly the flute repair man thought so too....
..........

........ when I met you I honestly thought you were gay as did my girlfriend at the time and I guess that assumption made a mess.

......
۞ ۞ ۞, jijaji, bangli, moksha, sahajiya joe whatever...

Does she have a PRESENT opinion about anyone else here that you are permitted to share with us, Mr Joe Bangles Moksha 3 Boxes ?
WHICH ONE OF US DOES SHE KNOW BEST?

[0talasiga0]

......
...its hard to be humble,
when you are perfect in every way..... [and the song continues]

Can’t wait to look in the mirror
As I get better looking each day

......

Well if it ain't Ms Rip Van Winkle herself.
I would prefer it if you wouldn't proclaim my secret
mantra to the world at large.
It is already beginning to lose its power .....

[Homer]

There must be something more important for you two to do other than defending bruised egos.

So what? A insults b, and instead of laughing it off the flame war continues.

Isn't being practically anonymous while conversing via the net reason enough to just let it mellow?

Sticks and stones may break my bones...

Words? Who cares?





If either of you died tonight would you wish this to be your finale?