3 Boxes vs. Talasiga, split from BV Narayan Maharaja Archives Options

[0۞ ۞ ۞0]

And whatever is talasiga talking about?

You must be referring to talasigas response to mine as that was his only response on this thread..

talasiga is still mad at me from Gaudiya discussions from the 'Wine topic' a couple of years ago, I'm sure openmindji and others remember...

That's where talasiga tried his best at pissing me off by his usual tactics in public and succeded so I pmed him and called him an 'Indian Fag'

I never meant it literally, I am not anti-gay, it's the kinda thing guys say to each other when they get pissed.

Anyway he has held a grudge ever since, even after I tried apologizing repeatedly several times....he could not find it in his heart to forgive such a horrible insult...

I'm still coming clean here it seems...

I have to because I have no time for childishness anymore and clinging to the past and such pettyness.

I even tried saying I was sorry again to him recently with my coming clean topic, I pmed him saying look no hard feelings and he just 'blocked my pm'...

That is what he is referring to here about 'blocking pms'

I have nothing to hide and if anyone else wants to come clean with me ..come on down I say, but please be ready if you are.

[Dhyana]

[Mod hat on]
۞ ۞ ۞, while reading the first part of your text above, where you write about an exchange of PMs you had with another member -- including the name-calling -- I thought of one of the rules we try to uphold in the forum: keep private exchanges private, and if you have a grudge against another member, don't make it public but ventilate it with that member in private or contact a moderator.

But I kept reading and understood you tried that and that your PMs were blocked.

I see the difficulty when a public comment appears that one member has reasons to believe is a reference to an older disagreement between him and another member in private. Where another reader asks for explanation that cannot be given without making private matters public.

Please, Talasiga and ۞ ۞ ۞, refrain from needling each other into writing something the moderators would have to censor. (I won't get into "who started" at this point.) We want the contributions from you both in this forum!

[0۞ ۞ ۞0]

Dhyana,

Why dont you ask talasiga to stop needling people on this board in general, including Tapati. I have not said one word to him other than this and frankly have gotten a little tired of it as have others...

[Dhyana]

۞ ۞ ۞,

I see your self-restraint in this exchange and it is appreciated. Serious.

[metamorphosis]

۞ ۞ ۞,

I see your self-restraint in this exchange and it is appreciated. Serious.

agreed, please guys, think of Babu and at yourselfs and each other with , cuz i appreciate you both, and hate it when my bro's are at each other, ok? one may have to be the big bro' and just allow the other to be the little one

[babu]

code red alert code red alert

(just assisting dhyana)

[0۞ ۞ ۞0]

funny I see no 'code red' when talasiga is bugging the hell outta everyone...

strange

[0talasiga0]

And whatever is talasiga talking about?

You must be referring to talasigas response to mine as that was his only response on this thread..

talasiga is still mad at me from Gaudiya discussions from the 'Wine topic' a couple of years ago, I'm sure openmindji and others remember...

That's where talasiga tried his best at pissing me off by his usual tactics in public and succeded so I pmed him and called him an 'Indian Fag'

I never meant it literally, I am not anti-gay, it's the kinda thing guys say to each other when they get pissed.
.......

Trying my best to piss you off?
You started a topic about how good wine is for the heart and I said that the same stuff that is good for the heart is already there in non alcoholic grape juice.
You challenged me for evidence.
I provided three internet links with scientific info. supporting my statement.
You got pissed off (really angry) and sent me abusive PMs.
(I have therefore a block policy for your PMs)

You are here quick to point out your discernment of BVN's anger. Perhaps you should forgive him his anger as you would have others forgive yours .....

BTW, my signature is code red ......

[0۞ ۞ ۞0]

Trying my best to piss you off?

Tala you are always trying to piss off and bother people, others know that as well, stop pretending.

forgive? You actually said that, good one tala...

You have held an old grudge far too long over such a thing for such an enlightened hindu you espouse your self to be and thats a fact.

Look if you are gay and I offended you back then I'm sorry or don't you accept apologies?

let the past go ol chap...!

[0۞ ۞ ۞0]

Nice outfit wouldn't you say..?

[0talasiga0]

Trying my best to piss you off?

Tala you are always trying to piss off and bother people, others know that as well, stop pretending.

forgive?

You actually said that, good one tala...

You have held an old grudge far too long over such a thing for such an enlightened hindu you espouse your self to be and thats a fact.

Look if you are gay and I offended you back then I'm sorry or don't you accept apologies?

let the past go ol chap...!

I think its a cute thing that you hide in this forum and from the vantage of your enlightened liberal viewpoint, needle the likes of BVN and cut and dissect every thing that crosses your your eagle intellect but when the glass turns on you you CAN"T TAKE IT.

The only men I know in Australia who aren't offended by being called a faggot are men who ARE gay talking about each other. I found the content of your abuse and the unprovoked ANGRY energy behind it abusive.

Now I remember you as a very angry young man.
I have forgiven you.

If I came by you on the freeway with your car broke down I would go out of my way to help you.
Just like I went out of my way (by hundreds of miles)
to visit you and your BVN devotee friend when you came to Australia.

Forgiving does not mean forgetting. That this forum is called "Gaudiya Repercussions" is itself a corrective to your "let the past go" slant.

(and I like the donkey thingies )

[0۞ ۞ ۞0]

Now I remember you as a very angry young man.

why coz we had a pm battle once, sure.

you sure wanted to hang out in OZ with me....I was not angry when you met me at all and you know it..you like to fluff things up a bit don't you tala...for effect.

Sorry you may know language, you may know music, you may know a thing or two about hindusim....

but you don't know BVN or Gaudiya Vaishnavism tala...at all.

And you don't know how to forgive and be in the present

That is clear after my asking you once again with my coming clean topic to let by gones be by gones..

but instead you had to use some ugly haiku about a donkey pissing...like a child.

This is the last post you will ever get from me.

[0talasiga0]

......
This is the last post you will ever get from me.

Oh Man! Make up your mind.
Am I a donkey or a dog?





(NB. For those not familiar with British/Irish/Indo/Aussie humour, this is an attempt at self deprecatory humour. If this, like a lot of my attempts fails its mark please do not imagine it is an attack against you or a moderator.

It is however, incidentally only, a commentary on the type of post offered by ۞ ۞ ۞ but that is not necessarily an attack of his posts. As we all know a dog does not distinguish between an old fence post, a cemetery crucifix, a stump or a gold and silver picket.)

[Emma]

you are both and stop fighting...its reminding me of my 4 and 5 year old daughters arguements and its getting boring plus i see enough of these childish fights in my home.

[0talasiga0]

this is what started this thread from this other topic:-

This group of GV's are intensely fanatical and it is a strange phenomenon but they seem to attract a fair amount of crazy people, seriously, if anyone has spent time with them a bit you pick up on this. Some real loons in that group. I personally find BVN to be a very angry person...

I'd block his PMs if I were you.

[Emma]

No i have a just turned 5 year old and my 3 year old will be 4 in 2 weeks...do you feel your mentality is closer to a 6 year olds?

[0talasiga0]

This is something I wrote at GD about apology. I still kinda like it:

"I am quite capable of accepting apologies but that does not make me accept just any apology that comes along.

My standard for apologies is that there must be, at some level, some parity in the "passion" or "shakti" in the apology and the thing being apologised about. Its not a cerebral thing, its a guts thing. Its what convinces us of the apology.

Also, sometimes the process of accepting an apology is gradual.

However, please don't misconstrue harmless remedial actions taken as flagging an unforgiving attitude. If a snake attacks me in my bush vegetable garden, I will forgive it in time for it was acting according to its nature. But that will not stop me
from putting up a more secure barricade around the garden. This doesn't mean I despise the snake. There is nothing lofty about it. Its just plain ol common sense.

Common sense has a lot of value in how we relate."

from this GD topic

BTW, the red wine topic that 3 boxes (jijaji, bangli) mentions has been deleted from GD it seems.

[Tapati]

I have to second and third Dhyana and Babu's reaction to this ongoing rehashing of old disagreements from another forum. As an observer both then and now, each of you has had a turn at provoking, needling, pissing off--call it what you will--and I think I speak for most if not all members when I say it is unpleasant and boring to read through. Isn't it enough to say that you still disagree about who was most at fault in the past encounter and choose to let each other's present posts go unanswered and unremarked upon if you cannot find a way to get along in the present?

I am not going to pass judgment on present or past "fault" or percentage of blame, etc., I am just reacting to the exchanges back and forth and reminding you that it takes two to keep it going.

As to who has offended other forum members in the past or present, I think each of us has had at least one or more turns offending, inadvertently or on purpose. I like the spirit of the Lord's Prayer in this regard: Let us forgive those who trespass against us so that we may be forgiven our own trespasses. Somewhere in the spirit of forgiveness we must also be willing to drop the subject even if memory causes us to guard our hearts from future hurt.

[0talasiga0]

.....
Why dont you ask talasiga to stop needling people on this board in general, including  Tapati.

Have you two been exchanging needle experiences behind my back?

I wish I had a moderator buddy.
Maybe I'll PM babulu.

I used to be very nice to him in other forums.
Use to come to his side a lot
(even if he didn't deserve it) ......

[Homer]

And I thought that if forum members clashed it was often due to the tyranny of the written word which denies us so much of what we need for real communication. I believed that if they met, face to face, then a more complete understanding of the individuals and their relationship would round-out the picture and that peace would supplant animosity.

It looks like I am full of shit – again!