Physical/Emotional LOVE "civil" UNIONS, this topic for helping to get together Options

[0planetpriya0]

This is really great, I have been married three times and am looking to change my usual taste in partner I joined up here because I have been told I am extremely difficult to live with so I figured that I will need someone very tolerant and perhaps enlightened, I really like Indian food and religion and hot weather. I am sorry that I can't always discuss with great knowledge on many of the "hot" topics but I am trying to learn, you all mostly seem like interesting and learned people and I will lurk awhile hoping that some of it may rub off

I imagine that anyone whose location is "south pole" is hard to live with.

How true .... sadly, how true... I would like to believe however I am not doomed to exist alone with no-one but the wind calling at my doorstep ..ahhhhh ( deep sigh )

[0Oneiros0]

How true .... sadly, how true... I would like to believe however I am not doomed to exist alone with no-one but the wind calling at my doorstep ..ahhhhh ( deep sigh ) 

I guess that that new movie, "March of the Penguins," show that there is hope!

[0planetpriya0]

How true .... sadly, how true... I would like to believe however I am not doomed to exist alone with no-one but the wind calling at my doorstep ..ahhhhh ( deep sigh ) 

I guess that that new movie, "March of the Penguins," show that there is hope!

Alas, new movies are but a distant dream to this old penguin

[angrezi]

How true .... sadly, how true... I would like to believe however I am not doomed to exist alone with no-one but the wind calling at my doorstep ..ahhhhh ( deep sigh ) 

I don't know, but with sexy feet like yours, I think many a man will be at your doorstep

[Dhyana]

Only Priya's feet are probably related to her avatar the same way as your appearance is to yours, Angrezi...

[angrezi]

Only Priya's feet are probably related to her avatar the same way as your appearance is to yours, Angrezi... 

What? If I was bald, and didn't have tattoos I would look stikingly similar to my avatar. I even played a vina once.

[metamorphosis]

Lonely farmer seeks country girl

August 20, 2005


By BRENT CURTIS Herald Staff




Farmersonly.com — complete with its motto “City folks just don’t get it!” — is an online matchmaker service for agriculturally inclined men and women in (my state) and across the country.

Online dating has been around for years, but it was only recently that a Web site allowed folks like 1983johndeergirl and rodeobum79 to search for true love.

Launched in mid-May, farmersonly.com gives farmers a place to plant the seeds of love. The site has already garnered quite a crop, with more than 225 women and almost 150 men posting profiles coast to coast — including three bachelors in (my state).

"After talking to some farmers, everyone was telling me the same thing — it's hard to meet anyone when you spend all day working in fields in the middle of nowhere," said Jerry Miller, founder of the matchmaking site, which is based in Ohio. "I wanted to create a community with the same interest levels."

It's obvious what many of those interests are just by looking at photos on the site.

Many women chose photos of themselves on horseback. More than a few men posed with their cows.

While some other dating sites might claim to cater to farmers, Miller said those Web sites profile farmers' listings along with everyone else's.

But Miller said he has kept his site focused on farmers by weeding out postings that are clearly not farm-related.

That doesn't mean that everyone listed on the new site is a farmer, though.

"I've found that there are basically four types on the site," Miller said. "There are the real farmers, people with some association to farmers, people who live out in farmland and, even though our slogan is 'City folks just don't get it,' we still have some city folks who want to get out of the city."

At least one of the three (state) listings doesn't appear to be from a farmer. A 20-year-old state capitol man describes himself on the site as an outdoorsman looking for a country girl to spend time with.

There's also a U.S. Marine from St. Johnsbury who writes that he grew up on a dairy farm and is looking for a country girl to start his own farm with. The third is a 63-year-old man who raises llamas and grows organic produce in St. Johnsbury.

Yet another strain of online dating might not seem like a big deal to some people. But the new site might be a more important dating tool for farmers than they are for the average lonesome single.

While many dating site users are fed up with the singles scenes at bars and other social forums, many farmers spend the bulk of their time working in isolation and are often too tired at the end of long work days to go out looking for love.

And in many cases, farmers live in small communities where the dating pools are shallow.

"Out in the middle of farm country, everyone knows everybody," Miller said. "After a certain point, you run out of options."

In (my state), it was once the custom for young men and women to meet one another at functions held by regional Grange organizations.

"It was the only way farmers got out and met people back in the day," said Marit Lewis, state Grange deputy for district 3 in Rutland. "They had square dances picnics and other get-togethers so farmers could get out and socialize."

But those days are long gone, she said.

Nowadays, farmers in (my state) said they're forced to be a little more creative.

Ed Pomainville, a retired farmer in Pittsford, said he has had great success with an organization called "Singles in Agriculture" since he divorced his wife years ago.

"I just got back from a trip to Portland, Ore., where I spent a week with a woman I met through the organization who is from Alaska," Pomainville said. "I think this new site would be valuable. Farmers don't get out much. This should help. By the way, you can say I'm available."

Rosina Wallace, who operates a small dairy farm in Waterbury, said many farmers had to wait until fair season rolled around to hit the social scene.

"The fair field days are the big social occasions for a lot of farmers and the biggest one is the Barre Farm Show in January," she said. "There's not much else. It's a good thing there are auctions out there."

Agriculture Secretary Steve Kerr said the dating site would also help farmers find potential mates who already have an interest in living an often demanding lifestyle.

"While maybe there are a lot of men and women pining to live a farm life, it's not apparent," Kerr said. "Perhaps online is the way of the future for farmers to find dates. You can buy your feed online, pay your taxes and now you can find a spouse."

[metamorphosis]

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Why are you still single?
By Jerusha Stewart

You know you’re a catch... so why are you flying solo? These silent love saboteurs may be to blame—here’s how to get past them.

So you really and truly want to be in a relationship but find yourself singing solo in the shower? Do you know you’re a great catch but can’t figure out why you’re not paired up like most of your pals? Unwittingly, you could be engaging in a little self-sabotage when it comes to finding your special someone. With a little digging you can uncover the silent saboteurs preventing you from achieving “I’m taken” status—and learn how to overcome them.

Silent saboteur #1: You’re ignoring your relationship needs
Often people with a lot on their plate will say that they’re open to a relationship and are willing to make room for one. But in reality they’re not. Some tell-tale signs: Every time your co-workers or friends extend an invitation to join them for a little after-work socializing, some unfinished project on your desk convinces you to say, “Not tonight, but once my workload lightens up” (as in, never). Or, you find yourself saying things like “I’ll start really looking for someone once I get my promotion/graduate degree/finances in order” (which, alas, may not be any time soon).

Solution: Put yourself first. Have an honest chat with yourself: Do you really want a romantic relationship in your life right now? If the answer is yes, make at least one step toward carving out some space for it, whether that’s signing up for online dating, telling all your friends and family you’re open to a set-up, or establishing a once-a-week night out with your single friends. And don’t let a few bad dates drive you back to your workaholic ways—once you have a good one and see what you’ve been missing, you’ll understand what all the hubbub is about.

Silent saboteur #2: You’re too quick to decide whether you’re interested
In today’s fast-paced culture, it seems natural to decide whether someone’s right for you in, oh, about three seconds. Alanna Rayford of San Francisco often cuts flattering male attention short. “In the first five seconds I know whether or not I’m going to continue to have a conversation,” she confesses. But think about it: Most of us aren’t great at making a killer first impression. “It sure could explain why I haven’t had a date in a year,” Alanna continues. “I don’t give men a chance to show me who they are. A little patience would probably help.”

Solution: Avoid making snap judgments. If you find yourself making snap judgments like Alanna, adopt these two new rules to end your dating drought. Rule one: Promise yourself to withhold any dateability decisions about someone until after a cup of coffee (the whole thing, not the first two sips). You should be able to talk to anyone for as long it takes to drink a latte. Rule two: Adopt a second-date rule. If you like the person, even just a little bit, make plans to see them again. At that point, you two should both be more relaxed and ready to reveal your true selves.

Silent saboteur #3: You’ve got options but none are “good enough”
We’re not saying you shouldn’t have standards. But see what your friends (especially the single ones) think of your prospects. If none of them get why you didn’t follow up with that person you thought was, oh, an inch too short (or too tall), or a freak because he wore a bolo tie, then you could be guilty of having too many must-have traits on your list.

Solution: Re-evaluate what’s really important. We all have our best-case scenario in terms of height, weight, hair color, and so forth in a partner. But how many relationships do you know where two people in a couple fit that wish list to a tee? None or not many, most likely—which is all the more reason why should you probably take a closer look at the qualities you deem ideal, or deal-breakers, on a date. A solid relationship is more often based on shared values and common interests—so make sure you keep those things in mind on your next date rather than obsessing about his too-short trousers.

Silent saboteur #4: You’re not entirely over your ex
You and your ex are history... so what’s up with the long, warm-and-fuzzy phone conversations to “check in” with each other? Sure it seems harmless. But if you find yourself comparing every new potential love interest to this former flame (or if you conveniently “forget” to tell your ex about the people you’re dating), then it could mean you’re still harboring some feelings for the one who got away, which makes it difficult to really focus on someone new.

Solution: Give yourself permission to meet someone new. You could be holding on to your past because you haven’t been building your post-breakup support network—a mix of friends and family members you can comfortably dial for no reason at all. Weaning yourself off your ex can be hard, but it largely comes down to re-directing those impulse calls. The next time you’re tempted to call your ex to vent about something awful that happened at work or just something funny that happened you’re dying to share, resist the urge and call someone else, like your mom. Over time, you’ll stop thinking about your ex so much, leaving you more open to meeting your next one-and-only.

Silent saboteur #5: Your attitude leaves a bad taste in the hearts and minds of others
When you’re out on a date, do you find the conversation generally veering toward your dimwit boss, dysfunctional relatives, dating horror stories, or some other “poor me” tale? You may think these stories are funny (and they very well may be), but after a while, anyone listening is going to wonder: “Why would I want to join this pity party?” and steer clear.

Solution: Get an attitude adjustment. Hey, we’ve all got problems. And while the blues are fine in stereo, very few people want a personal serenade. Putting your best foot forward all wrapped up in positive packaging makes you a much more attractive companion. Just because someone’s agreed to spend time with you doesn’t mean they’ve agreed to spend it as your therapist, so accept the dating process for what it is: A chance to get to know someone better, not vent. Stick to more positive stories and see if you don’t find yourself in a more positive place, dating-wise.

Jerusha Stewart, a.k.a. The Last Single Girl in the World, reveals how to be singularly sensational in her book The Single Girl’s Manifesta.

[angrezi]

anybody wanna see my baseball cards?

This post has been edited by angrezi: May 1 2006, 01:28 AM

[0Oneiros0]

anybody wanna see my nuts?

Depends. Are they walnuts or hazelnuts?

[Chanahari]

Depends.  Are they walnuts or hazelnuts?

...or coconuts?

[angrezi]

I apologize for the nuts comment. It was written in a foggy state of mind, and it was inappropriate for mixed company.

[metamorphosis]

I apologize for the nuts comment. It was written in a foggy state of mind, and it was inappropriate for mixed company.

well i am waYYYYY more offended by the so called edit job that you did....... "anybody wanna see my baseball cards?" how could you?

since i started this thread and babu wants all the threads to be properly on topic, i have moved from the thought of wanting a mate to more, wanting but thinking it a bad idea, so not wanting while wanting. a old friend from highschool i met recently, she was our class president, she had the same boy friend throughout, then married him. He went through the windsheild of a truck and was dead on the ground in front of it, when a Marine happened to see, and resusatated him. He recovered so not life threatoning, but broken brain, and as old age came on just not much of husband anymore, cuz C. sent him to Lenny Burch Farm for those types.

anyways she has some romantic ideas i think, cuz she wants to "hang" and she was with the hubby chastily since our old highschool days. but i don't want any part in the romantic part, cuz i will just fall in "love" like the couple of times it has happened before, and i just am not able to go through it again.

the thought of wanting a mate to more, wanting to mate but thinking it a bad idea, so not wanting while wanting, wanting while not wanting. Mental Platform Bhagavad-gita 2.55-56 Coming Off the Mental Platform 66/4/15

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i have been slapped in the face by a fish too many times!

[angrezi]

I apologize doubly meta. I didn't know.

[metamorphosis]

I apologize doubly meta. I didn't know.

i was not serious, you did know that didn't you? or is it that foggy?

[metamorphosis]

I am sorry that I can't always discuss with great knowledge on many of the "hot" topics but I am trying to learn, you all mostly seem like people  I will lurk awhile hoping that some of it may rub off
Priya

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i miss

[angrezi]

wow is that planetpriya? she's beautiful. too bad I pissed her off. that's my life

[angrezi]

I apologize doubly meta. I didn't know.

i was not serious, you did know that didn't you? or is it that foggy?

yes and no. I mean no and yes. I mean no I'm not foggy tonight, and yes I didn't think that gal slapped you with a big salmon

[Preyobrazhenya]

I apologize for the nuts comment. It was written in a foggy state of mind, and it was inappropriate for mixed company.

anyways she has some romantic ideas i think, cuz she wants to "hang" and she was with the hubby chastily since our old highschool days. but i don't want any part in the romantic part, cuz i will just fall in "love" like the couple of times it has happened before, and i just am not able to go through it again.


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i have been slapped in the face by a fish too many times!

Why don't you ask her straight out whether she has some romantic ideas or just wants to be friends. That way you could feel comfortable either way. If it is clear that you are "just friends" then you don't put your heart in it and enjoy the friendship. If she is actually romantically interested (DON'T GUESS - find out NOW), I think you should give it a shot. If it's hard to ask directly, find a "middleman" to find out for you. The worst thing is to think that someone is interested, then to get interested yourself and then find out that it wasn't mutual - OR to find out that someone wants a physical relationship but isn't interested in the long term - that hurts really badly too. Women are hard to figure out!

In any case, you are deserving of love and intimacy like everyone else. Take the risk - if she is interested. You have nothing to lose. Good luck!

[metamorphosis]

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[Why don't you ask her straight out whether she has some romantic ideas or just wants to be friends.  That way you could feel comfortable either way.  If it is clear that you are "just friends" then you don't put your heart in it and enjoy the friendship.  If she is actually romantically interested (DON'T GUESS - find out NOW), I think you should give it a shot.   If it's hard to ask directly, find a "middleman"  to find out for you.   The worst thing is to think that someone is interested, then to get interested yourself and then find out that it wasn't mutual - OR to find out that someone wants a physical relationship but isn't interested in the long term - that hurts really badly too.  Women are hard to figure out!

thanks for that help, here lies the main problem, i am very bad at communication with mouths and ears, i keep thinking i should get her email address, so that i can work on this question, but that requires communication with a mouth to get! so i just do nothing! as usual, and stay single and frustrated.

This post has been edited by metamorphosis: May 1 2006, 03:51 PM