Constructive suggestions, How do you calm down over debates? |
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Constructive suggestions, How do you calm down over debates? |
 Jan 5 2007, 12:08 AM
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 This member has left Gaudiya Repercussions.  Group: Former Members Posts: 7,266 Joined: 1-March 05 From: USA Member No.: 2  |
I think we have all felt misunderstood, unfairly accused, piled on, or just plain burnt to a crisp by online debates before.
I was thinking it would be nice to have a topic devoted to suggestions about how to take care of ourselves at times like that. What do you do to nurture yourself, make yourself feel better, calm down, etc., that does NOT involve flaming someone else back. 
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-------------------- "We have fallen into the place where everything is music." --Rumi he said change the channel/i've got problems of my own/i'm so sick of hearing about drugs/and aids/and people without homes/and i said, well,/i'd like to sympathize with that/but if you/don't understand/then how can you act --Ani DiFranco My LiveJournal |
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Jan 5 2007, 12:12 AM
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 in cervinus veritas Group: Full Member Posts: 3,890 Joined: 2-March 05 From: Phallus Falls, FL, Amurca Member No.: 5 devolutionist |
do something else. get off the computer. give the ego a rest.
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Jan 5 2007, 12:17 AM
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just remeber it's just words on a screen exchanged with people you only know on a very sureal level. it really doesn't matter. and the people who get the angriest just end up looking the dumbest.
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Jan 5 2007, 12:25 AM
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in cervinus veritas Group: Full Member Posts: 3,890 Joined: 2-March 05 From: Phallus Falls, FL, Amurca Member No.: 5 devolutionist |
have a stiff drink. flash yourself to your neighbor. chant a round.
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Jan 5 2007, 12:28 AM
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This member has left Gaudiya Repercussions. Group: Former Members Posts: 7,266 Joined: 1-March 05 From: USA Member No.: 2 |
Take a hint from Three Boxes' pic:
 Have a nice cuppa tea! Put on some soothing music. Or go look at some trees and ponder how old they are and how this might seem to them. -------------------- "We have fallen into the place where everything is music." --Rumi he said change the channel/i've got problems of my own/i'm so sick of hearing about drugs/and aids/and people without homes/and i said, well,/i'd like to sympathize with that/but if you/don't understand/then how can you act --Ani DiFranco My LiveJournal |
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Jan 5 2007, 12:29 AM
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This member has left Gaudiya Repercussions. Group: Former Members Posts: 7,266 Joined: 1-March 05 From: USA Member No.: 2 |
And remember:
your self worth is completely unaffected by the words of others. -------------------- "We have fallen into the place where everything is music." --Rumi he said change the channel/i've got problems of my own/i'm so sick of hearing about drugs/and aids/and people without homes/and i said, well,/i'd like to sympathize with that/but if you/don't understand/then how can you act --Ani DiFranco My LiveJournal |
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Jan 5 2007, 12:31 AM
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 Pundit Group: Full Member Posts: 806 Joined: 15-September 06 From: New Zealand Member No.: 436 |
Have a nice hot bath...works wonders for me.
-------------------- All I want to do is dance and make noise
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Jan 5 2007, 12:33 AM
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in cervinus veritas Group: Full Member Posts: 3,890 Joined: 2-March 05 From: Phallus Falls, FL, Amurca Member No.: 5 devolutionist |
manually stimulate oneself
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Jan 5 2007, 07:11 PM
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 Pundit? Group: Full Member Posts: 5,503 Joined: 2-March 05 From: Sweden Member No.: 6 Irregular Member |
Suddenly start laughing or swearing so loudly that your other half from his room wonders what's up. Then tell him or even read aloud, make some politically incorrect jokes, shake your heads over the matter, and move on.
It's dangerous to be alone at your computer in times of flame war.  
-------------------- Everything should be made as simple as possible, but not simpler. (Einstein)
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Jan 5 2007, 07:21 PM
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This member has left Gaudiya Repercussions. Group: Former Members Posts: 7,266 Joined: 1-March 05 From: USA Member No.: 2 |
And if we don't regulate our own behavior, there's always the Goddess to come along and shut down the forum and send us to our corners.
-------------------- "We have fallen into the place where everything is music." --Rumi he said change the channel/i've got problems of my own/i'm so sick of hearing about drugs/and aids/and people without homes/and i said, well,/i'd like to sympathize with that/but if you/don't understand/then how can you act --Ani DiFranco My LiveJournal |
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Jan 5 2007, 07:29 PM
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 Enlightened One Group: Admin Posts: 2,095 Joined: 14-January 06 From: North, more North Member No.: 203 |
QUOTE (ann geee @ Jan 5 2007, 01:17 AM) just remeber it's just words on a screen exchanged with people you only know on a very sureal level. it really doesn't matter. and the people who get the angriest just end up looking the dumbest.  If you are in brahman yes, but since the gist of life is relationships, I don't agree. |
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Jan 5 2007, 07:34 PM
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Pundit? Group: Full Member Posts: 5,503 Joined: 2-March 05 From: Sweden Member No.: 6 Irregular Member |
Get a massage. Of the neck but also other nearby parts. (I am getting one just now)
-------------------- Everything should be made as simple as possible, but not simpler. (Einstein)
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Jan 5 2007, 07:36 PM
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Enlightened One Group: Admin Posts: 2,095 Joined: 14-January 06 From: North, more North Member No.: 203 |
QUOTE (Prisni @ Jan 5 2007, 08:29 PM) If you are in brahman yes, but since the gist of life is relationships, I don't agree. I already feel misunderstood due to writing that. |
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Jan 5 2007, 07:39 PM
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 Howling wolf Group: Full Member Posts: 855 Joined: 8-February 06 From: Sapmi Land, the Land of the Laplanders Member No.: 223 Obstinate, perhaps. |
Mend a car - or kiss a wolf!
In any case, have some fresh air... 
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Jan 5 2007, 07:39 PM
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Pundit? Group: Full Member Posts: 5,503 Joined: 2-March 05 From: Sweden Member No.: 6 Irregular Member |
QUOTE (Prisni @ Jan 5 2007, 07:36 PM) QUOTE (Prisni @ Jan 5 2007, 08:29 PM) If you are in brahman yes, but since the gist of life is relationships, I don't agree. I already feel misunderstood due to writing that. 
-------------------- Everything should be made as simple as possible, but not simpler. (Einstein)
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Jan 5 2007, 07:44 PM
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Howling wolf Group: Full Member Posts: 855 Joined: 8-February 06 From: Sapmi Land, the Land of the Laplanders Member No.: 223 Obstinate, perhaps. |
QUOTE (Prisni @ Jan 5 2007, 08:36 PM) QUOTE (Prisni @ Jan 5 2007, 08:29 PM) If you are in brahman yes, but since the gist of life is relationships, I don't agree. I already feel misunderstood due to writing that. Maybe you feel, Miss Understood, because you never agree. ;o) How is the car? .o) And remember, dear, both you and the car are part of Brahman, in Brahman. Thus, you do have a relationship - together. Tat tvam asi. Please, agree. Sometime. |
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Jan 5 2007, 07:53 PM
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Enlightened One Group: Admin Posts: 2,095 Joined: 14-January 06 From: North, more North Member No.: 203 |
QUOTE (Dhyana @ Jan 5 2007, 08:39 PM) There is a small song by the velvet underground that goes: Ah, you've got such understanding ways I believe everything that you say Smiling faces not forgotten 'cause I love you It got understanding, belief, smiling faces and love. Everthing needed. |
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Jan 5 2007, 11:58 PM
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A long walk is great, gets the blood moving and there is always something in nature to grab your attention and take your mind off flame wars.
If you have a dog or cat, marvel at the unconditional love it gives you, pet him or her and in case the dog, go outside together for a walk. Laugh… immediately go to funny websites, TV shows or movies, though getting away from the computer for a while makes a lot of sense. Meditate, chant, pray, read an inspirational book, go to the library, bookstore or coffeehouse for a change in vibe. Tickle a loved one and allow yourself to be massively tickled in return Move to Australia (look what it has done for Homer!!!) Wax your Yuji and go for a ride! 
-------------------- "It's not how many times you draw breath that counts in a lifetime, but how many time something takes your breath away."
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Jan 6 2007, 12:24 AM
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 We Here Now Group: Full Member Posts: 4,277 Joined: 2-March 05 From: Here to Eternity Member No.: 15 Just Me |
QUOTE (Kalisurfer @ Jan 6 2007, 07:58 AM) Move to Australia (look what it has done for Homer!!!) Ha. Some would see this as being anything but a reason to come to the land of the kangaroo. -------------------- गोली मत चलाना, मैं केवल दूत हूँ
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Jan 6 2007, 12:30 AM
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We Here Now Group: Full Member Posts: 4,277 Joined: 2-March 05 From: Here to Eternity Member No.: 15 Just Me |
When things get heated and you find yourself angry, ask yourself why?
Usually, from my own introspection, it is because we are brought to the point of having our own construct of who we are and what we believe brought into question. I have always thought this was a good thing and has helped me understand exactly what it is that I do believe about myself and my world. -------------------- गोली मत चलाना, मैं केवल दूत हूँ
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